One thing that helped me win my weight battle was changing my image. I started identifying with Mary Tyler Moore instead of my current weight. I heard her say she was 120 pounds on one of her shows and I made that my goal. I started saying I wanted to be 120 pounds. Then the people who questioned my goal were given my justification “Mary Tyler Moore weighed 120 and I like how she looked. I think that’s the right weight for me.” I used her as my vision and kept imagining myself looking like her as my clothes began to get more loose. As much as I was enjoying my clothes getting looser, my tummy was still not looking like Mary Tyler Moore so I knew I wasn’t done. When I ate a little too much one day, at a family gathering, I’d just “fast it off” the next day. And I didn’t feel guilty about it! Fasting is healthy! Our bodies need a break from food so it can do what it needs to do. If you eat a lot of food you should skip a couple meals the next day until you get very hungry. Then I’d apply low carb meals or salad plus popcorn in the evening to get my munching fix and I lose a couple pounds! Remember if you gain 2 pounds in one day, you can lose 2 pounds in one day. Sometimes it’s just water weight but you definitely want to get on bloated and lose weight you gained.
Maintaining is that a problem when your way of life has changed while you lose. I’m not worried about gaining back on the weight because I have adjusted my eating habits to lose and I’m not going to retreat from this. I noticed that when I do have carbs and sugar, I feel like crap! It’s not just the weight it’s how much better you feel off the carbs.
Change your image as part of your goal. Figure out who you want to look like. Maybe Mary Tyler Moore was too thin for your goal. Who is the image you want? Study how she looks walking around, how her clothes fit.Stop looking at yourself and engrave the image in your head and you will get there.
Currently I’m at 122 pounds. I have been hovering between 125-128 until two weeks ago I lost 5 pounds. Now I’m hovering between 122-124. My goal is 119-121. I believe I’m lol set for maintaining but the last 3 pounds is requiring total commitment and I’m only able to lose every couple days. No carbs, no cheese, no meat, only veggies, salad, eggs 🍳 and protein shakes is working now.
Fifty or sixty pounds may not seem like much to the very obese but if you add paralysis to the problem, you can multiply the pounds by three. Like age in dog years or like a wind chill factor, 50 extra pounds on a disabled person feels like 150 extra pounds. Having been disabled now 32 years with a spinal cord injury, weight management was not an issue for me until the last 12 years. I had always been thin, like 110 pounds. I was in ballet until I was 16 years old. I’m also 51 years old now so I have that as an excuse but that did not comfort me when I found myself so overweight I couldn’t breathe while sitting up in bed. I was just miserable because my weight had crept up and I was trying everything I knew to lose it. With no scale available to weigh a paralyzed person, I did not know day to day if I was losing, or gaining. My decision to lose it all was at any cost. I’m an aggressive person when I want results. I will not pussyfoot around. My weight affected my every moment in how I felt about myself. It was like an extra handicap that I could get rid of if I just wanted it bad may enough; so I decided that no matter what happened, I had to lose it all as top priority in my life. No matter what family members thought about my eating habits or lack thereof, I was determined to break off my relationship with food. Comments from waitresses about how little I was eating, comments from my mother, caregivers, hubby or children would have to be disregarded. I could not satisfy other people and their concerns. I couldn’t focus on food anymore. I was focused on distracting myself from food and not eating was more important to me than eating. It’s a change in your whole life when you decide to lose weight. You must take up a hobby or decide what to do with your time besides eat. What will you do instead of eating breakfast? What about lunch time? Eating less and eating very little, or fasting more often from dinner to dinner is very noticeable to people around you. That cannot stop you.You want to be private about it but people want to know what’s up. So the mindset is the first thing I changed.I started with a very aggressive HCG diet. It’s scientifically unable to fail. All you need is the discipline. I didn’t care what it took, I was determined to fast 40 days if necessary. It’s easier for me not to eat than it is to eat differently. Everyone else in the world had to just deal with this change in me. If you cannot fight off your own mind and will and emotions plus the emotional effect on other people, worrying about whether you’re having enough protein or whatever, then you’ll fail.
The HCG diet brings you down to 500 calories a day with lots of water, so it’s like a fast. It worked great except.. I already had low blood pressure and drinking so much water without sodium in it, is dangerous. I didn’t know. Any diet that tells you to drink about a gallon a day should also tell you to make sure some of it is Propel or Gatorade. You can lower your blood pressure too much and it’s deadly. So I did end up in the hospital twice until they figured out the cause. It’s called “hyponaturia” which means you don’t have enough sodium in your body to hold on to the hydration. I actually dehydrated myself with water. It’s life threatening. Anyway the diet worked great except I didn’t know that detail so I don’t say not to do that diet, I say drink Propel along with regular water for any diet.
After that, I promised my husband I wouldn’t use that specific diet because it scared him. So I found a new one. It is called the “three-week diet.” Each of these diets said you could lose at a rate of about a pound a day. I liked that and it did happen. I am able to lose a pound a day whenever I need to because I learned how, safely. If I accidentally gain 2 pounds I can take it right back off.
1. The first thing that made a huge difference for me was I found a way to get a scale. My doctor prescribed the scale that attaches to my lift and this enabled me to start tracking my weight pound by pound. This is the most important thing that helped me by far. After I had already lost approximately 30 pounds without a scale to measure, I found out I was at 140 pounds. So I must have weighed about 170 pounds. As I continued my dieting, I could finally track exactly what was happening.
2. Another thing I learned is that you must have large bowel movements and have them often. I started using suppositories as that is suggested for my care. So I took time every day for a while to make sure I took action with my bowel care. It takes me two hours to make sure I’m done and can get up without any more problems. So I would pick a time of day or evening that I could get it done every day at first. It feels so good afterwards, like you just lost 2 pounds. Getting rid of the liquid that’s just sitting in the bowels is helpful too.
3. I bought a Fit Bit. As a part of weight management, it is vital to know how many calories you are burning on any given day so that you can either take in less calories or burn more. Even though I don’t track my steps per say, I can see my calories burn increase as I just run in my wheelchair, arms only, or any arm exercises. Deep breathing and heart rate increase does work.
At 123 pounds, I am happy but still determined to finish the job, down to 120. For me, I prefer being thin much more than I like food. Thinner makes life easier and makes me happier. I don’t need any more handicaps in my life. It’s much better for my health and mental stability to stay thin and I will keep it off for ever!
How can losing weight be enjoyable? In order to win at weight management we must enjoy the victory. As a person of very limited mobility, I have a harder way to go than many. However I have learned many ways to win at weightloss and the victory is all in my head. Rapid results are the best way to get excited about weightloss. I can lose a pound per day any time I need to. And I enjoy the win.
I find myself choosing my meals based on one phrase: “I’m enjoying my weight more than I would enjoy that whatever “. I also say “no thanks that’s not worth the calories.” So in other words I ‘m on a roll and I don’t want to mess up my victory. Before I found a scale that would be able to weigh me which attaches to my electric lift, my weight was unknown but I could see that I was way overweight for me. I figured out what it would take to lose rapidly by reading Three Week Diet by Brian Flatt .
and when I was off and running with success, I finally got my doctor to write a prescription for a special scale. I had already lost 20-30 pounds over months before that and found I was still 140 pounds. I had weighed about 160 at my worst. My normal weight is 115. Devistated at how much I had allowed myself to gain, I buckled down to finish the job. Now I’m down to 123.3 and my goal is 120 pounds. I’m 51 years old so I think 120 is a reasonable goal. Before my accident in 1985, I was a dancer. I find that I love being thin and even if 130 would be fine, I’m a Mary Tyler Moore kind of person and some of my happiness is connected to my weight. I do not like having extra weight. The thinner I get the more self confident I am. I won’t get anorexic; I just want to feel like myself again. Write this down, say it out loud several times a day:
I like being thin more than I like food.
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